James Arthur Waites (06.03.1955 – 12.02.2014)
Arts journalist and writer, mentor to many in the arts community and theatre critic James Waites passed away at Coogee Beach on the morning of the 12th February, aged 58.
James had been suffering from long-term illnesses and had recently been diagnosed with Parkinson’s Disease. With his health in terminal decline, he made the considered decision for his last swim to be at Coogee while he was still in a position to do so.
Jim Waites will be remembered by all who knew him as a deeply compassionate individual who was a devoted brother to his sister Patricia, uncle to Chris and Kirsten, lover, mentor, teacher and friend of many.
Details of a memorial service will be available on this site and elsewhere from Friday 21st February 2014.
The Australian Arts community have acknowledged his passing on Facebook, Twitter, blogs and print press. Selected links are included at the end of the brief and potted biography that follows.
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”We must remember that each performance is a unique work of art, merely bearing a similarity to the performance the night before, and other evenings yet to come. Then there’s the matter of what each of us brings to the encounter.” – JAMES WAITES
we have lost a great soul… I wrote to him on the 10th… on the 12th he was gone… I have no idea if he even saw my message
Jim saved my life in Sydney. He took me under his wing when we wrote for G magazine, and when G Magazine collapsed. He taught me how to cook rice through the absorption method. And we watched that’s my bush and serge the seal of death… and he paid for tickets for us to see bob dylan in the rain at centennial park…
Jim was a wise man, a battered man… he’d worked with the best; hell, Patrick White gave Jim his typewriter… he introduced me to william yang, who uses jim’s garage as a dark room, and we brunched with Bob Trevorow (bob downe for all you ingrates 
)… we did coffee on oxford st… saw requiem for a dream in newtown cinemas… he gave me a postcard of allen ginsberg in tangeirs which I treasure… but he gave me so much more
i believe he went well – he loved swimming… he loved living… he just didn’t love the bullshit that came from people who fucked things up…
he was the first guy I ever met who taught me about how to live with a permanent condition – in Jim’s case, HIV… he supported my move to come back to my hometown after I’d had my breakdown in Sydney… fuck he supported so much of what I did…
and he taught me a lot when I was reviewing and writing… and he left us many things… including this, which is probably a far better summary of his spirit than i can ever say:
I live in the pain of never really being able to express myself directly. And so I figure the next best thing is to encourage others attempting the same. Being a critic, which I think is a disgusting word, is probably the stupidest way to go about such a goal because it can encourage such nay-saying. I know I have hurt many people in the past. These days I try to take a gentler path – looking for work that I can ‘speak up’; and only going to the negative when I feel I cannot possibly, in all conscience, avoid it.
jim was one of my first mentors, one of the first to get what I was trying to do, and one whose ethics taught me much about why Sydney was not the place for me; if Jim, as chief theatre critic, could get sacked from the sydney morning herald for taking on a shitty production of Les Mis because of nepotism, well then maybe sydney wasn’t the place to make it after all…
one final memory of Jim… we’re on the green lawn outside Sydney’s Museum of Modern Art, me smoking my camel unfiltered, him having a joint, on one of Sydney’s blisteringly blue days, looking at the harbour in front of us, the opera house, cruising the guys wandering past. Jim stubs out his joint in the grass besides us, gets up and walks over to a suit, with two bodyguards, striding by. Turns out to be the state premier, Bob Carr (later foreign minister under the Gillard/Rudd govt), who Jim was friends with from his journo days. He had a quick conversation,said goodbye, and came back to me, this nobody, lit up his joint again and we kept talking about the world of ideas, the world of books and music and film and art…
out into the ocean jim… swim on…
wave thou art pretty.
wave thou art high
wave thou are music
wave thou are white
(oh albino)
(oh albino)
wave thou art high
(wave thou art pretty)
wave to the city
wave
goodbye.
goodbye sir.
goodbye papa
Hi Kirsten,
I went to university with Trish and was a frequent visitor to your home when you were young.In recent years I have lost contact with her, and other than by this method, I know of no way in which to pass on my deepest sympathy during this difficult time.
I wanted to pass on my conolences to both you and her. Whilst it has been many years since i have seen Jim, I have fond memories of him and always enjoyed his company.
I know times such as these can be both sad and stressful, and my thoughts are with you. ]]>
Hearing about his passing today (through Boom Boom being online and going to her page and seeing a message from Roger Foley Fogg) is sort of so meaningful, as if he’s calling his mates to remember him; and i will be there at the memorial. He was … a few moments ago that would have been is … one of those people that even 30 years didnt dampen our memories of great times.
Had just poured out the last of the xmas gin … it had been waiting for around a month for some tonic.
Ok, it’s sunk in now. Love to All
]]>Thank you for sharing
]]>You’ve set a high benchmark for integrity, intelligence, honesty, style – among others,
you were, no, are an inspiration. ]]>